Ugh kids with Dirty Mouths!!!!!!

I was so upset yesterday. I took my girls to the school with some friends. I was very upset when I heard some of things these kids are saying. For one I would never allow my 9 year old so say these things and I would never allow her to go to the school by herself because I know what goes on up there when there are no parents around. I had to correct three children from saying words against homosexuals, and for using the word bitch. I was so freaking mad! I told them if they want to use that language then they need to go home. I do not want to hear it and either does my three year old. You should have seen how fast they shut up. That is why there needs to be adult supervision up there. That is why I will not allow Tina to go there alone. What are people thinking? Seriously? I guess they allow their kids to go there alone so they do not have to. Next time I am going to ask to talk to some parents. They need to know what their child is doing. I know what mine are doing because I have taught them right from wrong. I let Tina know that I better never hear her say those words. Especially in public and especially around little kids. I told her friend (who I have to supervise) she can be a bit of a trouble maker. Tina is not allowed to play with her unattended. That she better not bring that crap to my house either. Or she will not be allowed around. The boy that was cussing was referring to her. I have a feeling there is a whole story there. But I really could care less. She is not my kid. Thank goodness because my kid would have never been suspended for nine days for fighting. Where are the parents is my question.

Messy kids have more fun!

One of my biggest pet peeves is parents that do not let their kids be kids. Most the women I know that are like this actually have their children close to being ocd. They are so afraid to play in the mud or finger paint because they might get dirty! Are you kidding me? Getting messy is the point of being a child! Let your child be a kid! They have tons of time to worry about staining clothing or being clean. Childhood is the time to get dirty and to experience things. 

I guess one thing I took from all the early childhood classes was that children learn better when they are getting messy. At my house we play in flour, wet noodles, water with funnels,dirt, and any other thing I can get my hands on. One of the things I observed in the daycare was how children would stay busy for hours exploring something simple like corn starch or flour. They would feel it and figure out what they could do with it. I took that home with me. Christina was about two. Since then I have used it as part of my parenting. Sensory is just an awesome way to build your child's brain. Randy has build us a sand and water table to do this. We use it often. Especially in the summertime outside. 

I am not trying to sound like I am a better parent because I let my kids get messy. I am sure there are great parents that don't. I am just trying to share my life experience as a parent.I am not better than anyone. I just love writing and sharing about my crazy adventures with my kids. I hope to inspire other parents to stop worrying so much and enjoy their children. If I can get one person to do that I would be so happy. Life is too short to worry about petty things that will not matter in 20 years. If your child ruined some outfit you will not care about that by tomorrow. I promise you. You will have memories of how much fun you had with your child. Your child will then pass it on to their children. Then we will have a whole generation of smart children. Children that are well adjusted and remember such good times with their parents. 

 Well I am off to do some more crazy things with my three year old. We have so much fun. We went for a walk, played with chalk. painted with bubbles (so messy) and now we are playing with funnels and water. We are trying to figure out how to get water from one container to another using our funnels. She is so into it. I love being a mommy! Days like this make me happy. Enjoy your children too. They are not small forever!

child support and medical insurance must be optional in the state of Ohio

" Oh we will call him Mrs. Channell and find out why he is not paying.", " Oh we do not enforce medical bill payments we just make orders that we cannot totally enforce". " You will have to get a lawyer and take him to court for not paying what we ordered him to pay." Any of this sound familiar? This is what I hear all the time. Nobody seems to care or want to make the man who helped make Christina accountable for paying for her. It has been just about two month without child support and Since January without proof of insurance. I called the old insurance company and he no longer has a policy through them. If he does not have insurance then he has to pay me more a month. Of course they never check to make sure he is dong what he is suppose to. I have to do their job. So tired of this. I just want him to do what he is ordered to do. If he does not want anything to do with her but on her birthday, Fine! I just want him to do what is court ordered. Funny thing is he will not communicate with me. I have called him, messaged him, and I have been nice too. How many people would be nice? Not many. Ugh I just want to scream and throw something. Of course they were suppose to call me back and never did. Figures. When they do and if they do I am going to inform them of the lack of medical insurance being provided. I am hoping they give me extra money for the months he has not reported it. Hopefully I can convince the people I owe medical bills to, to go after him for their portion of the payment. As of right now all the bills are in Randy's name. Which I think is bullshit. I seriously almost had a hormonal breakdown. Seems like nobody wanted to help me. Here I am working my ass off to support my child and the father has no responsibility in that. It's almost like it is optional or something. I have this piece of paper but nobody cares.If I had the money I would sue his ass. Well wish me luck. Venting really has helped keep me from going off. So frustrating!

Friday our day of celebrating Spring

What a great Friday. What a great time I had with my girls. We painted eggs, colored eggs, made rice crispy treats, had an egg hunt inside, and just enjoyed our day together. I am very lucky to have such great girls.

Randy worked in the garage on the baby's changing table with his dad most of the day. I was ok with that because I love spending alone time with the girls. Hoping for some nice weather on my day off.

Yes, I work all weekend. I do not mind. I have had this holiday off before and to tell you the truth it's just about the Easter bunny for us anyway. About the start of spring. We are not religious people. So it does not matter what day we celebrate spring. We gave the girls their Easter baskets on Friday. I never got a picture because they had them torn up before I could lol. They both got a toy they wanted and a set of colored bubbles. Which we are going to do an art project with. I am excited about that. No it was not how I wanted to spend our spring celebration but the weather gave me no choice.

Later that night Randy painted my belly like an egg. It was so fun and Corbin responded to almost every stroke.He did a great job too. Christina wanted to do my belly next and she did a great job too. Everyone got the chance to paint Corbin lol. Those are great memories that I will hold in my heart forever and I cannot wait to share it with Corbin.

Sunday I have to work again. Someone has to take care of the mentally handicap when their parents don't. I feel very fortunate to be the person to help.  I get the joy of receiving a paycheck that has a purpose. It helps my family while I am helping someone else. I love my job and my three clients are like family to me. I love helping them. Very few people can say their job helps someone. I mean really helps someone. Mine does. Not financially either. In all the important ways. Like, cooking, cleaning, helping them with their basic everyday needs.

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Avanelle and Mommy

Seems like not but a week ago Avanelle was my sweet little girl. She was agreeable and we spent the days together learning and doing art projects. Well all of that has changed suddenly. She talks back, does not listen and thinks she knows everything! What a 360 change!

Here are some fun things we have done lately. Enjoy! I know we have. Purple is Ava's favorite color. Some things I did not picture include a bar graph of colors of fruit loops, fruit loop art and our number line we made. Ava is mastering her cutting beautifully. I am very impressed and proud. I just wish her attitude  would change lol. But I find when I keep her busy she is not so bad. 


Something that has been heavy on my mind lately is her being the middle child. I hate that I have to have one. But she will be fine. I am a good mother and very confident that I can make her feel special too. She is a good child she will be fine. I cannot think about my brother being the middle child because it scares me. I cannot believe how he turned out. I really do not want that for Avanelle. So I guess I will have to find a great balance when the baby gets here. I have to make sure things do not change too much. She still gets her art activities and we still do Mommy and Ava things. Just got to keep the confidence. Well I am off to deal with my new difficult child. Wish me luck .

Saturday and a little vent

Today was an early day. Tina had softball pictures early and then she had to go to Randy's Grandmother's 90th birthday. Randy and I decided just to send the kids this year. One, we really do not care for the women and two, we have alot of work in the baby's rooms to get done. The girls had a great time. While they were there Randy and I worked on the crib. Randy's dad came over too. We had a great time.

The girls came home with presents from Grandma. She is always spoiling them with something. Tina got a new soccer ball and Ava new ponies. The girls really seemed to have a great time with Randy's cousins kids. I am glad that got to go. They were happy the rest of the night! What a great day for them. 

Well Friday has come and went. No child support still. Not a dime since March 2nd. I am owed well over a thousand again. I tried texting and calling Jeff. He was suppose to help with paying for Tina's ball. He never did. He will not take my calls and has not talked to Tina for over two months.He is not only ignoring his daughter but also his financial responsibility as a parent. I had to pay 100 dollars for her to play then another 40 for pictures. He has not helped one bit like our agreement says. Not only that but I have yet to receive a insurance card. He is suppose to have insurance on her. Without a card I have no way of knowing if he does or not. I also have no way of using it. I think the word here is neglect. He is neglecting his child. Which is because I firmly believe that a father should have time with his child. Matter of fact I would give her to him half the time if he lived closer. That was always my plan. I am sad for Tina it is not working out that way. I wish it was different. But I cannot change it. I would for a second. I would do anything for my daughter to have a relationship with him. That is much more important than the money. But I still think he should help. He helped bring her into this world too. I have always taken care of her pretty much by myself. I wish he was more involved. She needs both of us. Well talking about it will not change it. Makes me feel better though.

Enjoying the nice weather and our weekend plans

Yesterday was finally nice for us. Ava and I did art projects during the day and took a nice long walk with the dog. When Tina was finally out of school, the whole family went to the park together for an hour. We then came home ate dinner and played outside til it was dark. Avanelle fell asleep on the couch at seven and never really woke back up. Tina did her homework and read. She then took a shower and went to bed with no problems. I took a warm bath and went to bed shortly there after. Randy was an awesome husband and cleaned up the kitchen. Such a good husband. I am so lucky.


Weekend is hopefully going to be very productive on Corbin's room. I plan on painting the ceiling tonight. Then while Randy is putting together the crib I plan on putting on the stickers and stars on the ceiling. I still have to finish my rocket mobile and hang up the paintings we made for the room. So much to do and so little time! Ugh I am ready! I got to get the taping done so I better get off here and get that done.

Working mom.

Worked my butt off this weekend. Cleaned cooked and earned every penny of it. So glad to be home though. Working while pregnant is tiring. But someone has to do it. We all know I am not receiving any child support again. So the money is really needed. I missed out on my kids, but there is next weekend and this week. 

I have decided finally when my last day is. June 8th. I plan on working right up til I have the baby. I really have no choice. Once again Jeff is not paying his child support and I have tons of medical bills. I have to do what I have to do. I wish I could stay home but not possible in this economy. Have you seen the gas prices? Freaking crazy! Almost four dollars a gallon! Randy and I are going to be struggling just like when did when Ava was born. I guess we have to get the motorcycle up and running so he can ride it as much as possible to save us money. Does not help I have to take clients places! Ugh always something. Well it could be worse I guess. Very grateful for what I have. Glad to be living here another month lol!

Growing family. It's coming very soon.

I have never been happier. Things are so great right now. I am 30 weeks pregnant with my precious little boy. My girls are just a joy and my marriage is going awesome like always. I have to say as I stand back and look at my life I am completely happy.I have everything I ever wanted and more. If I died today I would have lived a great full life. 

Sure there are some small things I would like to do but when you sum up everything else. Like having the family I always wanted and the husband. I am pretty lucky. I am grateful. Sure like everyone we have our money issues. But there is nothing I can do about the medical bills or the child support I have not received in over a month. So why worry about it? I am not going to. I am going to worry about my family and our happiness.Things will work out they always do.

Going from two to three I am sure is going to be stressful. Randy and I will be officially out numbered. But I have a feeling once a routine is established, things will get easier. I am not scared at all about having three. Christina is very helpful and Avanelle is very good most of the time too. I think the sisters will just be so in love with their little brother. They will want to help. Especially Tina who seems to love babies. Ava is a middle child and I know it is hard on the middle child. She will get attention too though. I mean I plan on spending individual time with each of my children. Even if I have to start date nights. 

As for the money issue of things, I think it will all work out. I am a smart shopper. I shop at different stores and I try to get the best deal. I clip coupons, and I also shop at thrift stores. I am very thrifty. I am sure things will be just fine. Also if Jeff starts paying his child support again things will be even better. Probably should not hold my breath on that one though. Probably will be months before he pays again. This is going to make maternity leave very tough on us. But once again we will make it. Randy and I will work extra if necessary. 


I am getting so excited! Oh my gosh I cannot wait. Three children! My first boy! I am so ready for this. I cannot wait!

On another topic, Easter is coming up. Ava and I are going to enter a belly painting contest. Above is our practice shot. What do you think? I think it needs some work. Maybe shaped more like an egg. She had fun though.

My weekend.......... Birthdays!

My weekend was very nice. Randy's birthday was Saturday. We went to Red Robin with his family. It was so nice to see his sisters and his mom and dad. I had such a great time. Ava kept loosing her balloon. We had to keep getting her one. Finally we decided to just get her one on the way out. We found out some exciting news but it is on the down low til I am told other wise. I am very excited about it though. I hope so have some news about it soon. This was a celebration of everyone's birthday ( Amy, mine and Randy).

Later that day we had the icecream cake I made. Oh my goodness it was good. I could eat it all day. I put fudge brownies in the middle. Made it so good. I will be making one again next year. Randy said it was his favorite cake that I made. I am so happy he liked it.

Sunday Randy worked very hard on the crib and make great progress. He got both sides glued and the front glued. Hopefully soon my crib will be done. With all the the set backs I have faith it will be done this weekend and put up. Making next weekend the weekend of finishing my nursery. With the kids gone that should be a snap.


Sunday was also a sad day. It was the second anniversary of my grandfather's death. I went out to lunch with my cousins. It was fun and I hope we do it next year.

So we had a great birthday this year! I am so happy with how I chose to spend it. Hopefully next year is even better!